Friday, July 27, 2012

Orange Blossoms

this is the album of Aunt Minerva and Uncle Dale's wedding. tucked inside front cover: an envelope postmarked Maryville MO Marc 21 '49 with 3 cent stamp from Division of Field Service Northwest Missouri State Teachers College Maryville, Mo addressed to Mrs. Minerna Brown Spickard, Missouri. (no zip code!)
a small cardboard notebook with "Convention Notes with the compliments of Encyclopedia Britannica Britannica Junior on front, back is a stamped Business Reply Card to Encyclopaedia Britannica Educational Department 20 North Wacker Drive Chicago 6, ILL. inside are 2 pieces of paper. first has handwritten: oatmeal (crossed out) pudding mix (crossed out) coffee (crossed out) crackers (X after word), vinegar, sugar (crossed out), celery (crossed out), cabbage (crossed out) bananas, pineapple (crossed out)
2nd page handwritten Great grandfather (scratched out is a name beginning with J, last name Brown.)
a loose piece of paper same size as the notebook paper...a list of figures added up on one side 1.20 + .81 + .33 .10 + .31 + 1.65 +.46 + 6.29 = 11.15 + .23 + .47 = 11.85
on back is handwritten conduit staples, 1 1/2 Doz. with another list of numbers added, then some division.
empty envelope with "Mr and Mrs Joe Higdon, Birch Tree, Missouri" typed on front, "Mrs Minerva Brown Brimson, Missouri", printed on back. "Dad's grandfather Jacob A Brown...grandfather died April 2 1875 66yr 17 days...Sarah P. Brown died June 24 1879 68 year, 5 mo. 13 da ____________________________________- Great Grandfather Moses Brown died Dec. 15 1841 aged 64 yrs 2 mo. 25 day.."
"We met when we were freshmen in Brimson High School. I really don't remember much about him until after Christmas when G.O.Riley our professor moved him to the seat in front of me. From then on he was very outstanding in my thoughts as he teased and tormented me constantly. We use to walk down the street together on teh way home, but he went wtih our other classmates since I was staying with my Aunt Emma Utterback and my folks wouldn't let me go with the boys. After school was out we didn't see each other again until the following fall as I spent the summer in Kansas. Our first date was on Saturday night, August 13, 1938. When we attended Gilman City Fair. Doyle Spencer and Lota Faye Shirley were the other couple. This was the beginning of a seven year romance with one year out for disagreeing."
"Our engagement was announced privatley and individually. I told Fern Brown, Grace Brown. Dale told our folks, his brothers and sisters. Only a few intimate friends and relatives knew the secret."
Parties are given for us: September 11 1945 Brimson, September 13 1946 West Fairview
Showers for me: September 13 1945 we were given a shower & chivari at the Glen Hamilton home, by the West Fairview Community Club. It began to rain about seven o'clock so very few families were able to attend."
Gifts and congratulations: Mr & Mrs Glen Hamilton- Congratulations card...Mr & Mrs Doyle Bunser-Congratulations card...West Fairview Community Club-Congratulations card.....Mr & MRs Glen Hamilton-cookie jar, five pyrex dishes, screw driver, plyers, a butter dish.....MRs Mayme Whitt-pyrex pie plate....Mr & Mrs Harry Brown-wool quilt top...MR & Mrs HArold Evans-pyrex roaster...Fairview Community Club-Bedspread....Miss Rosetta Sawyer-candle sticks and print bowl (Fostarea)....MR & Mrs Rex Murphy-shagg rug & 6 linen towels.....MR Tom Maxwell-pig...Rosette Sawyer fruit bowl and candle holders....Henry Maxwell electric hot plate
As We Are: As we are, I'm at Spickard, Missouri teaching the West Fairview School, Dist. #10 and am staying at Mr & Mrs Glen Hamilton home. Dale is in the Army at McCook, Nebraska and we are both wishing he'll soon be released so we can have a home of our own.
Ancestral trees... maternal grandmothers father JACK BRYANT, maternal grandmothers mother GILLY MAE BRYANT, maternal grandfathers name GEORGE WASHINGTON HIGDON, maternal grandfathers name MARY SARAH FOESTER (FORESTER), maternal grandmother MARY ALICE BRYANT, maternal grandfather PHILLIP HIGDON, mother GILLY MAE HIGDON, bride MINERVA ALICE MAXWELL birthplace Melbourne, Missouri R.R. father THOMAS WITTEN MAXWELL, paternal grandmother MINERVA CRESWELL, paternal grandfather JAMES C MAXWELL, paternal grandmothers mother CYNITHIA WHITT paternal grandfathers mother ALICE CRESSWELL paternal grandfathers father YANCY CRESSWELL paternal grandfathers father THOMAS WITTEN MAXWELL maternals grandmothers father JOHN CAPSEY matenral grandfathers father THOMAS GREGG maternal grandmothers mother PRISCILLA NELSON maternal grandfathers mother JOHN CAMPSEY (?????) maternal grandmother MARAGET CAMPSEY maternal grandfather THOMAS GREGG mother HATTIE PRISCILLA GREGG groom LAWRENCE DALE BROWN birthplace Brimson MO father DEWITT CLINTON BROWN paternal grandmother MARTHA JANE COLE paternal grandfather DEWITT CLINTON BROWN
enclosed: a monkey postcard "Now I lay me down to rest, A pile of books upon my chest, If I should die before I wake, That's one less test I'll have to take."
"The wedding gown was a blue gray pin striped suit. The assessaires were a black hat with silver trimmings. These were bought from Mathra Oberg at the "Surers Shop" (see picture, not sure what it says!) in Trenton Missouri. My shoes were black patent leather & were bought at Chillicothe Missouri. The blouse was white sheer, with lace trimming, it was bought at Albuquerque, New Mexico. Dale picked it out. I wore a silver pin with blue sets, in preferance to a corsage. I carried a black purse, wore a watch given to me by my brother, John, also a locket Dale had given me several years ago for Christmas."
marriage announcement: Mr and Mrs Thomas W Maxwell announce the marriage of their daughter Minerva to Sgt. Lawrence D Brown Thursday, the ninth of August nineteen hundred and forty-five Albuquerque, New Mexico
This certifies that LAwrence D Brown of Brimson Missouri and Minerva Maxwell of Brimson Missouri were by me united in Holy Matrimony at First Baptist Church, Albuquerque, N.M. according to the laws of New Mexico on the ninth day of August 1945 Philip C McGakey, witnesses Leonard H Nuisbaum, Fern Brown.
wedding guests Miss Fern Brown, Mr. Leonard Nuisbaum


ExpressJodi said...

Great expectations

Life is full of surprises, particularly if you are a newly - wed . Expressjodi you a glimpse into the future and tells how to be prepared to face married life

Love is all about romance whereas marriage is a lot about responsibility. When two different individuals from different backgrounds live together, differences of opinion on things like spending habits, career, having and raising a baby, sharing household responsibilities etc, are bound to crop up, the key is to broaden your outlook and accept all the changes that marriage brings, and to remember that marriage is a momentous change for you and your spouse. And, fear not, over a period of time, you will find a way to make it work.


With marriage comes a whole lot of responsibility. "From the time you ger married, the decisions you make will not be yours alone, but your partner's as well. This is because your choices will impact both of you. But this doesn't mean that you're tied to a ball and chain. "It only means you have a companion with you for life. In fact, in your capacity as a spouse, you become your partner's caretaker, friend, confidante and even punching bag etc.


Arguments over money are bound to happen, so be prepared for it. And unless you establish some ground rules for dealing with financial issues, you will continue to have these arguments. Bear in mind that you are now a part of a unit, and no longer flying solo.

In - laws or outlaws?

if you thought that marriage is all about sharing your life with your significant other, think again, and this time, factor in your in - laws into the equation. When you're used to a particular lifestyle, moving in with your in - laws can be a rude shock. You will be required to make changes in your daily routine. Like waking up a little earlier to help around the house or rescheduling your plans on weekends or even modifying some of your eating habits. these might seem like an additional burden, particularly if you are a working woman. Remember to keep an open mind when it comes to handling your in - laws. They may be rigid in their ways, but there is always a way to work out a compromise.

Sharing space

Marriage involves sharing everything - whether it is sadness or glad tidings, chores or finance, which can be a difficult task. This is why marriage necessitates an equal contribution from both side. " Sharing is absolutely essential for a happy marriage,. Besides making it easier to run the show, it also brings you closer to your partner, and cement a bond in a way that only experience can.
Differnces of opinion

Shaadi brings two different individuals together, as well as two sets of arguments for everything. Remember that your husband is as new to the marriage and the relationship as you, and he is facing the same issue for the first time as well.Irrespective of the nature of the relationship, any two people are bound to have differences of opinion at some point of time, It is how you handle these differences that mtters. The best antidote for deviant interest lies in adapting to the situation. "Be carteful not to retaliate for the sake of it,"

Planning for the future

As a single independent working woman, you may be used to your lifestyle, going on holidays or splurging on the latest pair of Jimmy Choos. But married life is a journey and you need to plan carefully to get to your destination. "Planning is the key. Make sure you and your husband are on the same page as far as long - term goal are concerned," "Whether or not you plan to have a baby or deciding on investments for the future and are thing that you should discuss in advbance, if you want to avoid unpleasant surprises in you married life,"

ExpressJodi said...

Brahmin Shaadi
Historically, the Brahmins in india were divided into two major groups based on geographical origin of the people. The Brahmin groups that lived to the north of the vindhyas were referred to as Dravida Brahmins. Each group was further divided into five sections according to the regions of their settlement.

The Sagaai or the engagement ceremony symbolises commitment However, the South Indian Brahmin do not lay stress on the presence of bride and the groom in their Sagaai, rather it focuses on commitment between the parents of the groom and the bride. 'Latto' i.e., 'engagement plate' Which consist of coconut, flowers, turmeric, betel leaves and betel nuts hold more importance, in their engagement ceremony. The Maithil Brahmin bride of bihar makes her wedding affair stand apart by receiving the blessing from the Dhobi's (washerman's) wife - a compulsory tradition in the Bihari Brahmin wedding.

In Haldi ceremony turmeric powder is mixed with milk, almond oil and sandalwood and applied to the bride and the groom. In Kashmiri Pandit this ceremony has a twist becuase cold, white yoghurt is poured on the bride as an alternative to haldi. ritual is followed by a special custom called Shankha (shell) Paula (coral) in bengali Brahmins, where seven married women embellish the bride's hand with red and white bangles, the shell is supposed to calm the bride and the coral is believed to
be beneficial for health. Mehndi is also applied on every bride's hands during the Mehndi ceremony. However, a Bengali Brahmin bride applies alta (red dye).

After the ceremonious arrival of the groom, the garlands are exchanged between the groom and the bride, while the priests chant mantras. Jaimala is the symbol of unifying two souls into one. But in tamil nadu, "Oonjal", a unique jaimala ceremony is performed and could be best decribed as a tug of war. In this ceremony, the women sing songs to encourage the bride and groom to exchange the garlands while the uncles persuade the soon to be couple not to Exchange the garlands.Before the ceremony of jaimala, the bride makes a majestic entry in Bengali weddings.

Mangal Phere
Fire is considered the most pious element in the Brahmin weddings and seven circles around that fire holds the seven promises that the nuptial couple make to each other amidst the Vedic mantras. The Brahmin wedding is deemed incomplete without the seven rounds around the sacred fire. Unlike other Brahmin weddings, in Gujarati weddings only four pheras are taken which are called the mangalpheras where the pheras represent four basic human goals of Dharma, Artha, Kama, and Miksha (religious, moral, prosperity and salvation). Likewise in Malayalee Brahmin weddings, pheras are taken only thrice.

Post wedding ceremony vidaai
After pheras, the bride's family and friend bid her teary vidaai (farewell). The Kashmiri pundits make their vidaai even more special. their charming ritual, "roth khabar" is performed on a saturday or tuesday after the wedding. In Roth
khabar, the bride's parents send a roth (bread decorated with nuts) to their son - in - law's family. But the bride accompanies She stay with her parents and returns only when someone from in laws comes to fetch her back.

Griha pravesh
The new bride is greeted by her mother - in - law with Arti and tilak. The bride, who is regarded as the Goddess laxmi, enters the groom's house after the groom's house after kicking rice - filled pot. In Kannada Brahmin marriages, the groom changes the name of his wife in the name change ceremony where he decides a name for his wife and inscribes it on a plate containing rice with a ring. In Bihar, a very strange ritual is performs at the groom's place.