today with Kevin's help, I found Grandma & Grandpa's grave (right where I couldn't find it last time!) they had mowed the grass, but I don't like the marker flush with the ground. their flower vase was gone. Grandma's marker hadn't been updated yet. (3 days till the year anniversary of her passing.) But I am glad they are "found". for future reference, they are right next to the gravel lane, just a bit past the curve.